All About Whining
Oleh: Morinaga Platinum
If we create a list of all the things that annoy parents, whining would probably be on the top 5 points on that list. Whining is a behaviour that will certainly be attempted by the Little One as their communication abilities begin to develop. The purpose is simple, which is to get the attention of their parents. Ignoring the Little One when they are whining will usually just make it worse.
Usually, whining occurs shortly after the Little One feels that they no longer receive the full attention of their caregiver. For instance, when parents have to answer the telephone for a slightly longer duration. The Little One may not whine intentionally, but this is a natural habit they learned from their environment.
It is possible that the Little One started by requesting for something in a “polite” manner, but their parents ignored it. Then, they will increase their volume which eventually sounds like whining. If parents allow this to occur repeatedly, whining will become a habit that the Little One uses as a communication pattern to obtain the things they want.
Avoid whining by firmly giving a response to the request of the Little One. If parents are unable to attend to the Little One, give a clear sign and eye contact for them to wait.
If they have already started to whine, tell them gently but firmly that you do not want them to whine. If they want something, tell them clearly that you understand.
If the Little One continues to whine, check whether they are feeling sick or not. Maintain your emotions. Find out the reason behind their whining. Listen while maintaining eye contact and provide a gentle but firm response.
Does the frequency of whining become more often? This must mean that parents should introspect. Have they spent less quality time with the Little One recently? Are there any changes in their routine? Usually, the whining of the Little One is a sign that parents need to strengthen their relationship with them.
Scheduling to spend quality time with the Little One is very important. Parents can do this by taking the Little One to the playground, playing at home, or reading a book together.