Family Management

All About Whining

Morinaga Platinum - 25 January 2019

If we make a list of things that make parents get annoyed, whining must be on the top 5 list. Children will definitely whine when their ability to communicate has developed. The goal is simple, which is to have your attention. Ignoring them will make it worse.

Usually, children whine when they are no longer have your full attention, for example, when you should talk on the phone for quite long. Children may not whine intentionally, but this is a natural habit that they learn from the surroundings.

Perhaps, they initially ask in a “polite” way, but if Moms and Dads haven’t paid attention to them yet, they will increase their volume and become whining. If Moms and Dads let this keep happening, whining will be the children’s way of communication to get what they want.

Avoid your children from whining by quickly responding to their request. If Moms are in a situation where you could not respond, give them a sign and eye contact to wait.

If they had already whined, say gently but firmly, that Moms and Dads don’t like them to whine. If they want something, say it clearly so that Moms and Dads could understand.

If they keep whining, check out whether they are feeling sick. Keep your emotion. Find out the reason behind their whining. Listen to them while keeping eye contact and respond gently but firmly.

Are they whining more frequently? Wow, it means that Moms and Dads should reflect. Do you have less quality time with the children lately? Are there any changes to their routines? Usually, their whining is a sign that Moms and Dads should strengthen the relationship with them.

Spending quality time with the children is very important. Moms and Dads could do it by taking them to the playground, playing at home or reading books together.